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How To Include People With Disabilities (The Right Way)


This is the (correct) way to include someone with disabilities.

Introduction

Hello everyone. Welcome back to my blog. Can’t you believe that it has been a while since I posted? Another blog post/guide coming to you, well, an updated guide. I hope that you are having a great day today.

Today, I am writing this post because I would like to get something off my chest that has been bothering me lately and is making me feel very upset. I believe that this needs to stop, because other people with disabilities might have been hurt by this.

Disclaimers

Let me start with a disclaimer. I’m not writing this post to offend anyone. This post is an opportunity to educate one another about including someone with a disability in activities, such as outings, car rides, etc.

What Is The Problem?

Now to the problem. Imagine that you have a disability. It doesn’t matter what disability it is. It could be blindness or low-vision, autism, etc. I will use blindness as an example since I am blind.

So, one day, you text your friend about what their plans are. One of them says that they are going to a different city. You asked them what they are doing in that city. They then tell you their plans in the city. You then tell them that you wished that you wanted to go with them, but they say in the lines of “maybe one day” or “maybe next time, or even worse, “I’ll have to see.” This makes you very upset. You are very desperate to go on a car ride, meaning that you have been waiting for a very long time.

You feel stuck and alone because no one, especially your friends, would invite you to any events and outings. You feel stuck at home all the time because none of your friends would call/text you and ask if you want to go out for a ride or something.

My Rejection Story From My Old Church

This was back in December of 2021. I believe that it was a Tuesday. I texted someone from church on Instagram. I’m not going to name any names or anything like that. I asked her if she could drive me around, and she told me along the lines that her boyfriend doesn’t trust her doing that. This, to be honest, made me so heartbroken. I really wanted to go for a long ride around the city, but I can’t do that because of that?

I completely understand that relationships are important, but please, if you can at least chill out with the trusting issues? For me, this is considered discrimination, meaning that I am not included. As a result, as of June of 2022, I am now at a different church, where I feel included, and I am happy about the love that I receive from the church.

Example of Why I Left My Old Church

Here is an example of why I left my old church. When I had COVID back in January, I tried reaching out to one of my friends. This was when I was first diagnosed with COVID. After I got the results, I texted one of my friends from the youth group at the old church saying that I have COVID, and to get tested when she had symptoms. The sad/upsetting thing was that she never checked up on me to see how I was doing. I even left her voicemails, but she never returned my call or acknowledged me. This was the last straw for me to switch churches.

The lesson here? Check up on people! I believe that the Bible says that you must love your neighbors.

As of June of 2022, God told me to forgive the youth group. He now wants me to reach out to the old friends to set them straight in the right way. I will automatically accept all apologies for the people who left me out/rejected me in the past.

My Advice

Here is some advice for people who are friends with someone with a disability. I will be using blindness as an example.

Ask Them If They Want To Do Something

Sure, it could be a car ride, an outing, a movie, etc. Yes, some people with disabilities can advocate for themselves. Others are really good at it. However, it is your duty as a friend to ask questions like, “Would you like to ride around with me sometime this week or weekend just to talk or something,” or “Want to go out for dinner?” These are examples, but you get the point. This, in return, will make them feel included in real-world experiences. For me, as a blind person, I will be really happy if I got out for a little bit and had fun.

Be Dependable

If you promise that you will drive the person around, please keep that promise. If your plans change or something comes up (it happens to us sometimes), let the blind person know in advance. This could either be a text or a phone call. They will appreciate you if you let them know. Don’t, however, bail out on the very last minute, like an hour, or even 30-minutes before the event. What not to say, when a blind person asks you somethig is the following phrase, “I’ll have to see…” For me, this means that it might not happen at all. Instead, you can say, “Let me see what I can do, and I’ll do my best to contact you by this weekend.” This means setting yourself a deadline to contact them.

Be Descriptive

Make sure that you give a good description of what’s around when you take a blind person to a new place.

Have Fun!

Whether if it is a car ride or any other activity, just have fun! That’s all I have to say about that.

ConClusion

Remember, everyone is different in some ways. We must treat everyone with respect, no matter if they are disabled or not. I want to be normal, and I want to be treated normally like everyone else.

Resources

Below, you will find resources that I used for this guide.

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