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The Transformative Power of Car Rides


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Introduction

Welcome to my longest article that I’ve ever written/worked on my website. In this article, I will dive deep into the world of car rides, from a blind persons perspective, such as myself who has benn blind since birth.

First, I will be going over the mental health benefits of a car ride and the art of inviting me on one the right way and the wrong way.

I’ll go over the consequences of ignoring invitations, and how it will impact my mental health, friendships, and relationships. And also, I’ll dive into where if something comes up on the day of the scheduled car ride.

I’ll also go over the signs of me desperately needing a car ride, with different examples. I’ll then explore the benefits of a car ride on a first date and in a future romantic relationship with someone.

And yes, I’ll go over the possibility of, and more likely, needing more than one car ride. And, I’ll tell you my personal experiences asking for car rides at my old church, and go over the positive outcome of the difficult, but the best decision switching from the old church to an open-minded church community with open arms.

I’ll dive in to my cringy teenage years, where I felt lots of envy when other teens got their licenses, giving them the freedom to drive their friend(s)/partner around, but not including me as a passenger. I’ll then fast forward to today as a young adult, telling my story of how I still get jealous, and how I imagine my future partner driving me around when I’m falling asleep at night, and realizing at the end for the need for me to educate others regarding the car rides. I’ll mention my preference of riding in the front seat, especially when you invite your friends along for the ride.

I’ll then go over how Olivia Rodrigo’s “Drivers License” song made me wish that I was riding around with Olivia, and how it relates to my desire for a car ride.

I’ll go over my experience of watching car ride ASMR videos, and give some advice to ASMR artists that might be reading this article on how to make ASMR content (driving/car rides) more accessible.

Lastly, I’ll briefly mention a guide I wrote on how to interact with blind people, from a blind person’s perspective. Finally, I’ll close with a challenge for all of you.

For me, going on relaxing car rides with someone helps me cope with stressful situations, such as me needing to get stuff off of my chest, or just to get out of the house for a few hours or more to explore the city/countryside, or just riding around to enjoy the nature. I understand that not everyone who is blind, or is living with other disabilities, doesn’t enjoy car rides, meaning that they have their own strategies to cope with situations that can make them feel stressed.

And with that, I invite you to embark on this remarkable journey with me. Together, let’s delve into the world of car rides from a blind person’s perspective, exploring the mental health benefits, the art of inviting me on a car ride, and the transformative impact that a single car ride can have. Join me as we navigate the challenges, celebrate the triumphs, and uncover the deep longing for connection and freedom that resides within. So fasten your seatbelt, adjust your mirrors, and prepare for an adventure unlike any other. Let’s hit the open road together by diving into this article.

Notes

  1. This article can be easily navigated by the Table of Contents, located at the very top of this article.
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Before We Start

Before we start, I would like to let you know that this article is in no way intended to offend anyone. I wrote this article in hopes to bringing understanding to anyone who personally knows me or is getting to know me for the first time, and also to tell you my own coping strategies as a blind individual.

I am always happy to answer any questions, whether it is via my email or via a direct message. For those of you who has saved my personal cell phone number, I’m only one phone call or text away. We are all here to learn from each other, not to judge one another.

So, let’s move on to the article!


The Mental Health Benefits I Gain from Car Rides

Here are some mental health benefits that I gain from going on car rides:

  1. Escapism and Emotional Restoration: On days when I feel engulfed by the weight of the world, a car ride becomes my sanctuary of solace. The mere act of escaping the four walls that confine me can alleviate stress, resurrecting a sense of freedom and liberation. The gentle breeze that brushes against my face and the ever-changing scenery outside the passenger car window serve as a canvas for emotional restoration.
  2. Catharsis and Release: There are moments when my emotions become too overwhelming to bear in the static environment of my home. A moving vehicle creates a refuge where tears can be shed, frustrations can find their voice, and laughter can bubble forth unabashedly. The privacy and intimacy of the car ride allows me to embrace the cathartic release that accompanies such emotional vulnerability.
  3. Mindfulness and Reflection: As the engine hums and the vibrations of the road find their way to my fingertips, I exist in a meditative state. The hypnotic rhythm of the ride breathes life into a mindful mindset, allowing me to explore my thoughts, feelings, and innermost desires. It becomes an opportune moment for self-reflection and a deeper connection with my inner self.

The Art of Inviting Me on a Car Ride: Choosing the Right Words To Say

If you wish to extend an invitation for a car ride, it is crucial to be mindful of your words and their potential impact on my emotions. Here are some suggestions on what to say, as well as examples of what not to say, when asking me if I would like to ride around with you:

Effective Invitations via Text, Messaging Apps, Phone Calls, or In-Person:

  1. Text Message Scenario: “Hey Armando! I’ve been longing for a peaceful drive without any destination in mind. It would be wonderful if we could go on this journey together. What do you think of me taking you for a drive? I know that you like to go on car rides, and I know that it is fun for you.”
  2. Phone/FaceTime Audio Call Scenario: “Hey Armando! I hope that you are doing well. I’m calling to extend an invitation for a car ride—it can be a therapeutic escape from our daily routines! How about we embark on this adventure together and see where the road takes us? I know that you like to ride around, and yes, I’ll be happy to drive you around as long as I can.”
  3. Messaging App Scenario: “Hey Armando! I noticed your passion for self-exploration by riding around. Why not venture on a car ride to share new experiences? We can enjoy each other’s company amidst the freedom of the open road! I’d be happy to pick you up, and we can do a car ride, where I’ll drive you around the city. What do you think?”
  4. In-Person Conversation Scenario: “It’s great running into you! I’ve been craving a spontaneous car ride lately. How about we take this opportunity to create memorable moments and enjoy the journey together? I know that you mentioned that you like to go on car rides. I’d be happy to take you for a ride.”

What Not to Say to Avoid Hurting My Feelings:

  1. “I’ll have to see.” This is a vague response that you should avoid saying at all costs.
  2. “I feel sorry that you can’t experience the scenery around you, so let’s go for a drive.” (Avoid statements that emphasize pity or presume my inability to appreciate the environment.)
  3. “You would never understand the joy of driving, but I guess I can take you.” (Avoid underestimating my ability to find joy and connection during a car ride.)
  4. “Let’s go for a drive! But don’t worry, I’ll do all the talking since you can’t see anything anyway.” (Avoid assuming that my blindness impedes my ability to engage in meaningful conversations.)

Consequences of Ignoring an Invitation: Impact on Mental Health, Friendships, and Relationships

By disregarding an invitation or failing to honor commitments related to car rides, significant consequences can arise, impacting my mental health and our friendship or relationship. Here are a few possible negative outcomes to consider:

  1. Trust and Reliability: Promising to pick me up from my house or workplace and not following through erodes trust and leaves me questioning your reliability. Consistency and dependability are vital aspects of fostering a healthy, enduring friendship or romantic relationship.
  2. Emotional Impacts: Ignoring my car ride request, providing vague responses like, “I’ll have to see,” or even unexpectedly ghosting me on the day of the trip without explanation, for example, not texting, calling, or FaceTiming me can deeply hurt my feelings. It intensifies a sense of dejection and isolation. Be aware of the possible emotional weight that your actions can cause.

If Something Unexpectedly Comes Up On The Day of The Scheduled Car Ride

I understand that unforeseen circumstances can sometimes arise, and it’s important that we handle them respectfully and communicate effectively. If something unexpectedly comes up on the day of the scheduled car ride, I suggest engaging in open and prompt communication through texting or calling. This way, we can navigate any changes to our plans in a considerate and respectful manner. Here’s how you can handle such situations:

Texting or Calling for Communicating Changes

  1. Texting: If you find yourself in a situation where you are unable to proceed with the car ride at the agreed-upon time, sending a text message is an efficient way to inform me. Please make sure to convey the reason for the change and offer an apology for any inconvenience that this may cause. Here are a couple of examples of how you can let me know in an appropriate way:
    • “Hey Armando! I’m really sorry, but I’ve unexpectedly been asked to stay late at work today due to …. I won’t be able to pick you up for me to take you for a drive at the scheduled time. I apologize for any inconvenience that this may cause. I promise that I’ll keep in touch for the rescheduling of me picking you up for the ride that you’ve requested.”
    • “Hey Armando! Unfortunately, I wanted to let you know that a family emergency has come up, and I won’t be able to pick you up for the scheduled car ride today. I apologize for any disappointment or inconvenience that this may cause. I promise that I’ll keep in touch to reschedule for me to pickyou up.”
  2. Calling: If the situation is urgent or requires more detailed explanation, a phone call would be most appropriate. By calling me, we can have a real-time conversation, ensuring clear communication and understanding. When calling, please offer a sincere explanation for the change in plans and apologize for any inconvenience caused. Examples of respectful phone conversations could be:

    • “Hi Armando! I’m calling to let you know that there’s been an unexpected traffic jam on my route, and I won’t be able to make it on time to pick you up for the scheduled car ride. I apologize for any inconvenience that this may cause. I’ll be arriving a little bit late. Or, is there a better time for us to reschedule?”
    • “Hey Armando! I wanted to inform you that my car unexpectedly broke down, and I won’t be able to proceed with me picking you up for the scheduled car ride today. I’m really sorry for any inconvenience that this may cause. I understand that you are disappointed right now. I know that you really like going on car rides to clear your mind. Shall we find another suitable time to go for a ride together once my car gets fixed? I’ll let you know as soon as possible once it gets fixed, so we can schedule the next ride, and I’ll drive you around as long as I can.”

What Not to Do: Ghosting, Invalid Excuses, and Excessive Apologies

It’s essential to maintain respectful communication and avoid certain behaviors that can cause confusion or discomfort. To ensure our interaction remains positive and considerate, let’s be mindful of the following:

  1. Ghosting: It is important not to engage in ghosting, which means avoiding complete silence and ignoring messages or calls from me without any explanation. Ghosting can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Let’s strive to communicate openly and honestly instead.
  2. Invalid Excuses: It’s crucial to be truthful and genuine when explaining changes to our plans. Providing invalid excuses may create distrust and jeopardize our understanding. Let’s avoid making up stories or insincere justifications. Honesty is the key to a strong and respectful relationship.

    For example:

    • Claiming sudden illness but being active on social media, going out with friends, etc.
    • Stating a previously made commitment that doesn’t exist.
  3. Excessive Apologies: While it is appropriate to apologize for any inconvenience caused, excessive apologies can sometimes be unnecessary and may even create an uncomfortable atmosphere. Let’s express a sincere apology once and focus on finding a suitable alternative.

    For example:

    • Apologizing repeatedly even after I have assured you that it’s alright.
    • Repeatedly saying sorry without providing a clear solution.

Offering Alternative Days, Times, and Pickup Locations

In the event that the scheduled car ride needs to be rescheduled due to unexpected circumstances, I am more than willing to find an alternative day or time that suits both of us. If we both work in the same city and you finish work around the time of our proposed car ride, it makes sense for you to drive to my workplace to pick me up. In some instances, I can get an Uber or a Lyft to your workplace to meet up, depending on the distance and the price of both services. This way, we can save time and make the most of our shared proximity.

If another day is more convenient for both of us, I am open to considering various options, such as:

  1. Choosing a specific evening or night that works well for both of us without any conflicts.
  2. Considering a weekend day, like Saturday or Sunday, ensuring no conflicts with any church activities or any planned events that one of us may have on these days.
  3. Exploring a time after an event that we might attend together.
  4. Identifying a time that suits both of our schedules to ensure a smooth car ride experience.

Please let me know your thoughts or any constraints you may have regarding alternative options, and I’ll be happy to adjust accordingly. Clear and open communication is the key to navigating unexpected situations and finding mutually convenient solutions.


Signs That I Desperately Need a Car Ride When I’m Feeling Stressed

Here are the signs that I desperately need a car ride when I am feeling stressed.

As a Friend

Scenario 1: A Challenging Day at Work

  1. Physical and Mental Strain: I appear physically drained and mentally taxed, displaying signs of weariness and a lack of enthusiasm.
  2. Yearning for Escape: I mention the desire to escape the work-related stress and seek a change of environment, longing for the liberation that a car ride can provide.

Scenario 2: Feeling Overwhelmed

  1. Verbalizing Overwhelm: I express feelings of being overwhelmed with various aspects of life, including personal responsibilities and the complexities of navigating a sighted world.
  2. Visible Signs of Tension: There is a noticeable increase in tension, restlessness, or irritability, indicating the toll that overwhelming stress has taken on me.
  3. Craving a Break from Routine: I voice the need to break away from my usual routine, yearning for the freedom and tranquility that a car ride can offer.

Scenario 3: Seeking Solitude and Escape

  1. Desire for Solitude: I communicate the yearning for some time alone, away from the constant interactions and demands of daily life as a blind person.
  2. Escape from Urban Noise: I mention my longing to escape the noisy urban environment, seeking solace in the peacefulness of a car ride.
  3. Finding Serenity in Motion: I express a desire for the sensation of movement and the ability to explore new surroundings, as it helps me find inner peace.

As A Future Girlfriend

Scenario 1: Mental Health Struggles

  1. Heightened Emotional Distress: I display signs of anxiety, depression, or a generally heightened emotional state, seeking moments of tranquility and relief.
  2. Introspection and Self-Care: I express the need for self-care and the importance of finding a change in environment to alleviate the burden on my mental health.
  3. Recognizing the Therapeutic Value: I emphasize the soothing and calming effects of a car ride, highlighting its ability to provide a temporary respite from the challenges I face.

Scenario 2: Seeking Emotional Support

  1. Yearning for Connection: I show a desire for emotional support, longing for quality time and meaningful conversations to deepen our bond.
  2. Creating Safe Spaces: I express the need for a safe and comfortable environment, such as a car ride, where I can freely open up and share my thoughts and feelings.
  3. Feeling Relieved in Your Presence: I express a sense of relief and relaxation when we embark on car rides together, finding solace in your company and feeling emotionally supported.

Scenario 3: Escaping from Daily Pressures

  1. Craving Freedom: I talk about the desire to experience a sense of freedom and independence that comes with a car ride, allowing me to venture beyond my typical boundaries.
  2. Finding Respite in Nature: I express a longing to escape into nature, yearning to hear the sounds of calm surroundings and breathe in the fresh air during a car ride.
  3. Seeking Distraction and Respite: I mention the need for a distraction from the daily pressures and challenges I face, envisioning a car ride as a time to clear my mind and find temporary solace.

In summary, to alleviate stress, there are distinct signs that you, as a friend or a potential future girlfriend, can look out for. By being attentive to my challenges at work, feelings of overwhelm, mental health struggles, desires for solitude, need for emotional support, and the yearning to escape from daily pressures, you can provide the understanding, companionship, and care necessary for me to find solace and rejuvenation during our shared car rides.


The Benefits of a Car Ride on a First Date

The idea of going on a first date in a car may seem unconventional to some. However, this unique experience offers a multitude of benefits that can enhance the connection and create lasting memories. Below, I will share my personal insights on the advantages of a car ride on a first date, from a blind person’s perspective.

Being in a car with my date allows me to rely on her navigational skills and trust in her ability to guide us safely. It creates an opportunity to build a strong foundation of trust and support, as we work together to reach our destination. This shared experience fosters a sense of teamwork, where my date becomes not just a romantic interest but also a reliable ally.

Engaging in Deep and Meaningful Conversations

The intimate environment of a car provides a conducive space for focused conversations. With fewer distractions, I can engage in deep and meaningful discussions with my date. From sharing personal stories to discussing our passions and interests, the car ride allows for an uninterrupted flow of conversation, promoting a deeper understanding of each other.

Improving Communication and Listening Skills

In a car, effective communication becomes paramount. I rely heavily on verbal cues and clear directions to navigate the world around me. The car ride provides an opportunity for my date to practice clear and precise communication, enhancing her ability to describe surroundings and actively engage in descriptive conversations. Likewise, it allows me to hone my listening skills and actively participate in the dialogue, creating a stronger connection and fostering effective communication patterns.

Exploring New Surroundings Together

With a car, we have the freedom to explore new places and embark on exciting adventures. From scenic drives through nature to discovering vibrant cityscapes, the car ride becomes a gateway to new experiences. These explorations take on a different dimension, relying on my other senses to fully immerse myself in the surroundings. Together, we can create cherished memories of discovering unfamiliar territories, broadening our horizons as a potential romantic couple.

Enjoying the Sensory Journey

A car ride provides a sensory experience that can be heightened for a blind person. The sounds of the engine, the feel of the vibrations, and the unique scents of different environments all contribute to a multi-dimensional experience. This sensory journey can be rich and captivating, further deepening the connection between my date and me as we share these sensory experiences together.

Building Emotional Intimacy

The privacy and closeness of a car ride creates an ideal setting for building emotional intimacy. It allows for shared vulnerability, as we have conversations that may be more challenging to have in public settings. The intimate space of the car fosters a deep emotional connection, enabling us to open up to each other, share our fears and aspirations, and truly bond on a profound level.

Strengthening Trust and Building Independence

By relying on my date for transportation, I am able to build trust in her ability to navigate and ensure our safety. Simultaneously, the car ride offers an opportunity for me to grow in independence by challenging myself to explore new places and overcome obstacles with her support. It becomes a journey of mutual dependence and empowerment, strengthening our bond as we navigate the world together.


The Future Benefits of a Romantic Car Ride

Let me be honest with you. As I’ve never been in a relationship with someone who drives, the prospect of a romantic car ride holds a world of exciting possibilities and presents unique advantages, distinct from my previous experiences. In this first-person account, I would like to share my hopes and expectations for the future benefits that a romantic car ride can bring to me when I am in a relationship with someone who drives.

Embarking on New Adventures Together

One of the most promising benefits of a romantic car ride in my future relationship lies in the opportunity to embark on exciting adventures with my future girlfriend. As I imagine the freedom of having a girlfriend who can drive, the world suddenly opens up to endless possibilities. We can explore new places, go on spontaneous road trips, or simply take scenic drives to reconnect with nature’s beauty. These shared experiences will allow us to create cherished memories, deepen our bond, and ignite a sense of exploration that may have been limited in the past.

Experiencing the World Through Her Eyes

Being in a relationship with someone who drives allows me to experience the world through her eyes, providing me with a unique perspective and enriching my understanding of the surroundings. Her descriptions of the scenery, landmarks, and changing landscapes will paint vivid pictures in my mind. Through her observations, I can immerse myself in the journey, visually perceiving the world alongside her, albeit in a different way. This shared experience deepens our connection and strengthens our ability to share and understand each other’s perceptions of the world.

Enhancing Communication and Trust

In a future relationship with someone who drives, communication takes on a new dimension as we navigate together on our romantic car rides. Clear and precise communication becomes vital for a safe and enjoyable journey. I’ll rely on her guidance and descriptions of the road, traffic conditions, and any obstacles or landmarks that we encounter along the way. In turn, my active engagement in the dialogue and effective communication with her will strengthen our bond, build trust, and foster a sense of teamwork. We’ll master the art of clear and concise communication, allowing us to navigate not only the physical roads but also the intricate pathways of our emotions and desires.

Deepening Emotional and Physical Intimacy

The intimate setting of a romantic car ride offers unparalleled opportunities for deepening emotional and physical intimacy with my future girlfriend. The private and cozy space of the car allows us to engage in intimate conversations, share our dreams, and express our deepest desires. The tranquil environment devoid of external distractions creates a serene ambiance for connecting on a profound level, building emotional intimacy, and strengthening our bond. Additionally, the physical proximity in the confined space of the car may lead to gentle touches and/or tender moments that further deepen our connection, passion, and affection for each other.

Fostering Independence and Empowerment

For me, having a future girlfriend who drives fosters a sense of independence and empowerment. While I’ll rely on my future girlfriend’s driving skills, it also presents an opportunity for personal growth and self-assurance. Her support will enable me to expand my horizons, venture into new places, and navigate the world confidently alongside her. The freedom and confidence gained from these experiences will permeate other aspects of my life, allowing me to overcome barriers and embrace a broader sense of independence.

Discovering New Music and Shared Tastes

The soundtrack of a romantic car ride becomes an essential part of the journey. With my future girlfriend behind the wheel, I eagerly look forward to discovering new music and sharing our favorite tunes. We can explore different genres, exchange playlists, and enjoy the melodies that add a new dimension to our romantic car rides. These shared musical experiences create lasting memories and further strengthen our connection as we harmoniously travel down the road together.

In summary, the future benefits of a romantic car ride when I am in a relationship with someone who drives are both thrilling and promising. From embarking on new adventures and experiencing the world through her eyes, to enhancing communication, deepening intimacy, fostering independence, and sharing the joy of music, each car ride will become a cherished experience. With every journey, we will grow closer, build a stronger bond, and truly embrace the magic that lies in the shared exploration of life’s roads together.


Needing More Than One (1) Car Ride Per Week

In some instances, a single car ride may not suffice to meet my needs, and the desire for more than one ride arises. The reasons for seeking multiple car rides extend beyond mere transportation. The prospect of additional trips offers me a valuable opportunity for exploration, relaxation, and personal fulfillment.

  1. Exploration and Adventure: Embracing a series of car rides allows me to explore various destinations, unveiling new areas and embracing the thrill of the unknown. Each journey carries the potential for unique discoveries, introducing me to different sceneries, cultures, and experiences that would be difficult to encounter solely within the confines of a single ride.
  2. A Sense of Freedom: Multiple car rides can provide a profound sense of liberation and independence. As a blind person, venturing beyond my immediate environment through various car journeys enables me to break free from limitations and expand my horizons. With each ride, I can embrace the exhilarating feeling of mobility and the ability to traverse distances.
  3. Self-Reflection and Peace: Car rides offer a serene backdrop for introspection and personal reflection. Engaging in a series of journeys allows me to dedicate time to my own thoughts, detach from the demands of daily life, and find solace in the peacefulness found on the open road. Repeating this experience allows for a deepened sense of tranquility and self-discovery.

My Experience with Car Rides at My Old Church

Allow me to share with you my experiences of asking for car rides at my old church. It was a time when I expected the kindness of my fellow church members, hoping to save money on services like Uber or Lyft after regular church gatherings. However, what I encountered was a prevailing belief within the church community that I should provide my own transportation.

My Rejection Experiences

Several rejections stand out in my memory, leaving me feeling deeply upset. One instance involved reaching out to someone from the student ministry on Instagram, seeking a ride where she can drive me around. Unfortunately, she insisted on having her boyfriend accompany us in the car. I was unable to determine whether this was a particular Christian Denomination practice or another factor, but the incident deeply hurt me. I longed for the spirit of compassion and neighborliness that I expected within the church community.

On another occasion, after a church event, I asked someone to take me to Buffalo Wild Wings. Their response of “I’ll have to see” indicated they were considering taking others to the restaurant as well. While I understand that there may not be room in the car for me, the lack of a straightforward answer left me feeling overlooked and unimportant. It was a rejection that compounded my sadness and frustration.

Fast forward to the day after I attended Celebrate Recovery for the first time, thanks to someone who invited me. After a Student Ministry Service, I was fortunate to have someone drive me to Buffalo Wild Wings, with her friend of course. However, during the car ride, I felt isolated from their conversations between each other, who occupied the front seat, when I’m the one that is stuck in the back seat. To cope with my feelings of exclusion, I resorted to listening to music with my headphones, creating a barrier between us.

Once we arrived at Buffalo Wild Wings, the friend of the driver asked me for my address to determine my drop-off location, an action that made me upset. In my opinion, it should have been the driver who took the initiative to inquire about my address since she was the one responsible for driving. To make matters worse, I continued to feel excluded from their conversation.

As we reached my final destination after leaving the restaurant, I cannot recall the specific question the driver or her friend asked me. Despite this, I thanked the driver later via text message for providing the ride.

In subsequent conversations with the driver, we discussed her affinity for driving around for fun and looking at the stars. I took the opportunity to suggest going for a drive together, but her response of “I’ll have to see” left me uncertain and disappointed.

The final rejection came when I reached out to someone from the Student Ministry on New Year’s Eve of 2021 out of boredom, seeking a drive. Once again, they insisted on having their boyfriend accompany them, silently adding to my frustration.

A New And Positive Beginning!

In the beginning of 2022, I made the difficult, but the best decision to leave my old church and began searching for a new and inclusive church community. The rejections that I faced, combined with other reasons, prompted my departure. The final straw was when I contracted the Coronavirus (COVID-19) and realized that the support I anticipated during this challenging time was lacking. This, too, contributed to my final decision to seek a fresh start elsewhere.

At my new and current church (All Saints Episcopal Church), I have found a community that includes me in various activities, such as providing car rides to and from church events. Even when they have their spouses, partners, or other passengers in the car, they make a concerted effort to ensure I am not excluded. It is a testament to their commitment to inclusivity and the genuine care they extend to all members.

Additionally, if my memory serves me correctly, I am immensely grateful for a wonderful couple who unexpectedly visited the church office. We are still friends to this day. I recall my Pastor from my current church reaching out to me via email, offering the couple as a means of transportation to and from church events. Their thoughtfulness and kindness left a lasting impression, solidifying my belief that I have found a community where I am valued and supported.

For those who still attend my old church, I offer the following advice for you to follow:

  1. Recognize the importance of being good neighbors, extending help and support to others.
  2. Embrace the spirit of inclusivity and compassion within the church community.
  3. Reach out to me at any time. I am open to sitting down and sharing my experiences to foster understanding and growth.
  4. Cultivate an environment where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued.
  5. Prioritize empathy and strive to ensure that no one feels excluded or overlooked.
  6. Be proactive in extending a helping hand and being a good neighbor.

Remember, the church should be a place of love, fellowship, understanding, and community building. By embodying these principles and practicing inclusivity, we can create a welcoming environment for all.

Please feel free to reach out to me at any time. I am here to lend an ear and share my experiences with you. Let’s come together as good neighbors, supporting and uplifting one another, no matter where we are on our journey in faith.


My Experience During My Teenage Years, Specifically High School

During my high school days at a school for the blind, I experienced moments of deep envy when I saw others talking about getting their driver’s licenses on social media, especially Facebook. As I scrolled through posts where my peers excitedly shared their newfound freedom, I couldn’t help but feel a pang of jealousy. I longed to be “normal” and fit in with the teenagers who enjoyed going out, riding around, and engaging in lighthearted conversations. It was especially tough because, deep down, I always yearned to be picked up and driven around like everyone else, enjoying the shared experiences and spontaneity that comes with a car ride.

In my mind, I imagined friends (also partners, especially the girlfriends) picking her friend(s) up, laughing, and having meaningful conversations while she skillfully navigated the roads. These moments of camaraderie and connection seemed just out of reach for me, simply because I was blind and at a different school.

Even when I met new people online during those days, I always found a way to bring up the topic of driving. In conversations, I would often ask if they would be willing to drive me around if we were to meet in person. The desire for the experience of riding around with someone, engaging in conversations that flowed effortlessly, became a recurring theme in my interactions.


My Experience As An Adult

As an adult now, I still find myself mentioning car rides, asking if they like to drive for fun, when I meet people, whether it’s through messaging apps or other social settings such as out in the community. I realized that my fixation on this topic stems from a deep longing for the sense of freedom and connection that comes from sharing a car ride with someone.

I still find myself getting envious when people don’t invite me out, particularly when they go to a place that I know I would enjoy. This is especially on Friday/Saturday nights, where groups of people go out to bars or any other event(s), but not ask me if I wanted to come with them. It can be challenging to deal with this feeling, especially when I have to rely on Uber or Lyft to transport me there, or when I have to arrange for someone to pick me up in advance, rather than having someone from the same group accompany me. Being excluded in this way can leave me longing for the spontaneity and camaraderie of being included in the same plans as others.

Imagining A Car Ride With A Future Girlfriend When I’m Falling Asleep

When I surrender to the embrace of sleep each night, my mind weaves a tapestry of enchanting visions that transport me to a world of boundless possibilities. In the realm of my dreams, I imagine a future girlfriend taking the wheel and driving us through the intricate labyrinth of highways and interstates. As we traverse the open roads, her voice, like sweet honey, fills the air, serenading us with its soothing melody.

In this nocturnal reverie, our car (technically her car since it is under her name) becomes a vessel of freedom and connection. Sometimes, our conversations flow effortlessly, punctuating the peaceful hum of the engine. We discuss our hopes, dreams, and fears, sharing the deepest corners of our souls. Her voice resonates in my ears, a symphony of tenderness and understanding, as we navigate through the vibrant tapestry of life together.

At other times, we relish in the tranquil silence that envelops us. The rumble of the tires against the asphalt serves as our chorus, harmonizing with the rhythmic beating of our hearts. In these cherished moments, she reaches out, her right hand gently caressing my shoulder, a tender gesture that ignites a warm spark of connection. I can feel her touch, soft and reassuring, as if affirming our unity in the midst of this shared journey.

As we embrace the open road, I am acutely aware of the world around us. The thrill of the wind rustling through our windows, the changing landscapes that unfold like paintings on a gallery wall, and the ever-present pulse of life beneath the tires of the car. Together, we immerse ourselves in the ebb and flow of the road, finding solace in the simple act of moving forward.

So, as I surrender to the depths of slumber, I let these fantasies of a future girlfriend driving me around envelop me in a warm embrace. Together, we navigate the highways of my imagination, her sweet voice guiding us, her touch affirming our bond. I carry this dream within me, knowing that one day it may transform into a tangible reality where our souls can dance to the rhythm of the open road.

Jealousy When Other People Get To Drive With Their Windows Down, And Having Someone That I Can Trust

Also, when people get to drive with the windows down, , jealousy takes hold of me. The sense of freedom they exude is something I yearn for. Although I have only experienced it a few times when riding around, I crave more opportunities to let my feelings out and vent to someone who can keep our conversations confidential. Whether it’s a close friend or a future girlfriend who truly understands, I envision going on car rides every one or two weeks, adjusting the frequency based on my stress levels and the overwhelm I am facing, particularly at work or during challenging situations.

Having a trusted confidant who assures me of their discretion when it comes to sharing our discussions is of utmost importance. Knowing that I can openly express my thoughts and emotions without worrying about others finding out provides a deep sense of comfort. During these car rides, I would share my innermost thoughts, unburdening myself and finding solace in the empathetic presence of my companion.

The Frequency Of Car Rides

The frequency of these car rides would be flexible, adapting to my fluctuating emotional state. If stress and overwhelm become overwhelming, I might increase the frequency to twice a week, enabling me to vent and find emotional release more frequently. Conversely, during calmer periods, one car ride per week might suffice. It is crucial for me to tune into my own needs and ensure that I have a consistent outlet for self-expression, accompanied by a confidant who respects my boundaries and supports me unconditionally.

Long Car Rides

Regardless of whether the windows are up or down, a long car ride typically brings me immense happiness. The act of riding around with someone itself, combined with the opportunity to release my emotions, brings a profound sense of contentment. I find that longer drives, lasting more than an hour or two, or even three hours, have an even greater impact, offering ample time for introspection and rejuvenation. Additionally, the idea of embarking on a small road trip to another city, exploring backroads along the way, fuels my excitement for fun-filled adventures and the opportunity to satisfy my curiosity.

In addition to finding emotional release, these car rides would provide me with the chance to ask countless questions. The open road and the comfort of the car create the perfect environment for my curiosity to thrive. I would joyfully take advantage of this opportunity, asking inquiries ranging from lighthearted topics to deep and philosophical discussions. The car rides would become vibrant exchanges of ideas and knowledge, further deepening the connection between myself and my companion.

My desire for the freedom of me riding with someone with the windows down or up, the need for a trustworthy confidant, and the excitement of exploratory road trips/backroads remain strong. These experiences would not only help me find emotional release and satisfaction but also engage my curiosity and thirst for knowledge. Together, we would journey through the open road, exploring new cities and backroads, creating cherished memories, and strengthening our bond along the way.

Realizing The Need To Educate And To Spread Awareness To Others

However, it is important to note that as I have grown older and gained more understanding and awareness, I have come to appreciate and embrace my identity as a blind person. I am proud of who I am and the unique perspective that I bring to the world. I have realized that education and open communication are key in helping others understand my needs and desires, such as the importance of car rides when it comes to fostering friendships or building romantic relationships.

By sharing my experiences and raising awareness, I hope to create a more inclusive and empathetic society. It is through these efforts that we can foster understanding, bridge the gap between the sighted and the blind, and build connections that transcend physical limitations.


While the world may not unfold visually for me, just like anyone else, I have my preferences, especially when it comes to seating arrangements. When we hit the road, my hands-down favorite spot is the front seat, right beside you. Here’s why I prefer to ride in the front seat:

  1. The Soundscape: Sitting in front allows me to immerse myself in the rich tapestry of sound. The hum of the engine, the murmur of your voice, the wind rustling outside – these paint a vivid picture of the world around us, filling the void left by sight.
  2. The Sense of Direction: Being in the front helps me piece together the journey. I can feel the turns you make, the changes in acceleration, and the different textures of the road beneath the tires. This information allows me to form a mental map of our route, fostering a sense of spatial awareness.
  3. The Shared Experience: The front seat positions me as your co-pilot, a partner in navigating the landscape. I can offer my input, ask questions, and share my observations, making the journey a collaborative adventure.
  4. The Feeling of Connection: Sharing the front seat creates an intimate space where I can feel your presence. The warmth of your body, the scent of your perfume/cologne, and the sound of your breathing all contribute to a deep sense of connection that transcends the limitations of sight.
  5. The Openness to the World: The front seat offers an unobstructed view of the open road ahead. While I may not see the scenery unfolding before us, I can feel the anticipation and excitement build as we approach a new destination.
  6. The Conversation Flow: Sitting next to you allows for a free and flowing conversation. No need to shout or turn my head; I can easily participate in the conversation, sharing my thoughts and listening to yours without any barriers.
  7. The Feeling of Trust: Your willingness to share the front seat with me speaks volumes about our friendship/relationship. It shows trust, respect, and a desire to include me fully in the experience.
  8. The Shared Laughter: The front seat becomes a space for shared laughter and joy. We can talk about what’s on our minds, rant about anything, and simply enjoy each other’s company, creating lasting memories together.
  9. The Sense of Security: Sitting next to you fills me with a sense of security and comfort. Knowing you are at the wheel and I’m right beside you allows me to relax and fully appreciate the journey.
  10. The Unique Perspective: Riding shotgun offers a perspective that differs from the backseat experience. It allows me to feel more connected to the road and more involved in the act of driving, making the journey even more meaningful.

Of course, your friends are always welcome to join our adventures. Just a heads-up beforehand would be appreciated so I can adjust my expectations for the conversation and dynamics within the car.

Ultimately, riding in the front seat with you is more than just a seat. It’s a way to connect with you, share the joys of exploration, and create lasting memories together. So, next time you are thinking about taking me for a drive, or we schedule a future car ride where you pick me up, remember, the front seat awaits a co-pilot ready to experience the world with you, one sound, one turn, and one shared laugh at a time.


Olivia Rodrigo’s “Drivers License” Song: Sharing the Desire for a Car Ride

Whenever I hear Olivia Rodrigo’s “Drivers License,” it struck a deep chord within me who yearns for the experience of a car ride. This beautiful ballad not only touches my heart, but it also resonates with my desire to go on a meaningful journey, where the destination doesn’t matter as much as the companionship and connection.

As I immerse myself in the poignant lyrics of “Drivers License,” I can’t help but daydream about being in the car with Olivia, sharing heartfelt conversations that relate to my own personal experiences. The thought of her driving me around, engaging in conversations that make time slip away, and offering the comfort and warmth of her presence fills my heart with a sense of longing and a connection to the song on a personal level.

Content Warning: The music video for “Drivers License” contains explicit language. Viewer discretion is advised.

You can watch the official music video for “Drivers License” below.

Listening to “Drivers License” makes me wish I could join Olivia on her journey, talking about life, dreams, and everything in between. The song’s relatable emotions and heartfelt delivery draw me in, creating an intimate connection that inspires me to embrace the desire for a car ride, shared experiences, and the ultimate freedom of the open road.

Note: If you enjoy the song and prefer the clean version, you can find it for purchase on iTunes or Google Play.


Watching Car Ride ASMR Content On YouTube

As a person who enjoys the immersive experience of ASMR videos, car ride ASMR holds a special place in my heart. Let me take you through my preferences and why I find these videos so appealing from my unique perspective.

First and foremost, I must admit that car ride ASMR videos provide me with a sense of comfort, relaxation, and a feeling of being transported to a different place. As I listen to the sounds of the car engine, the wind gently whistling through the windows, and the rhythmic vibrations, I find myself immersed in the experience of a serene car ride.

What I appreciate most about car ride ASMR videos is authenticity. Real sounds, the ones you hear in an actual car ride, play a vital role in creating a genuine experience. I prefer hearing the turn signals ticking, the natural hum of the engine, and the gentle music or conversation that would naturally occur during a car ride. Sound effects, on the other hand, tend to disrupt the authenticity and take away from the immersive nature of the video. They can break the illusion and pull me away from the experience.

In terms of the narration, I personally enjoy a normal voice over instead of a soft whisper. A natural speaking voice makes me feel like a friend or companion is right there with me, sharing their thoughts and experiences. It creates a comforting and realistic atmosphere, allowing me to engage more fully with the video.

There is something delightful about the ambient sounds that accompany a car ride ASMR video. The sound of raindrops or birds chirping outside the car window, the occasional passing car, or even distant city sounds can add a layer of immersion to the experience. These sounds, when used sparingly and thoughtfully, contribute to the overall ambiance and help me feel connected to the surroundings.

Another aspect that enhances my enjoyment of car ride ASMR videos is the presence of gentle conversations and friendly banter. It makes me feel as though I am part of a shared experience with others, as if I am truly a passenger in the car. Engaging dialogues create a sense of connection and remind me of the camaraderie that can be found during car rides with friends or loved ones.

Lastly, accessibility features such as closed captions or detailed audio descriptions would be a valuable addition to car ride ASMR videos. These features enable me to fully understand and appreciate any visual elements or non-verbal cues that may be present in the video, allowing me to immerse myself more fully in the experience.

In conclusion, car ride ASMR videos provide me with a soothing and comforting experience. Authenticity, real sounds, a normal speaking voice, and engaging conversations all contribute to the immersive nature of these videos. By incorporating these elements and considering the accessibility needs of blind individuals, ASMR creators can create more inclusive and enjoyable car ride ASMR content for a wider audience.

Car Ride ASMR Video Example

Below, you will find an example of a car ride ASMR on YouTube. It is not 100% perfect, but it is a good example that you can listen to.

Example of An ASMR Car Ride Video: From PINE KAT AUDIO

Car Ride ASMR Example

Advice for ASMR Artists on Making First-Person Car Ride ASMR Accessible

When creating first-person car ride ASMR videos, there are several aspects to consider to make them accessible to a wider audience. While everyone has different preferences, including the use of a real car and the type of voice, here are some additional tips to enhance the accessibility of your content:

  1. Engaging Narration: To create a more immersive experience, use an engaging narration style that enables listeners to feel like they are sitting in the passenger seat. Consider using a normal voice instead of a soft whisper to provide a sense of realism and make it feel like a friend or partner is driving. This can help create a personal connection for viewers regardless of their individual preferences.
  2. Vibrant Audio Description: Enhance the accessibility of your first-person car ride ASMR by providing vibrant audio descriptions. Describe the surroundings, scenery, and any notable events or objects you encounter during the journey. This enables blind individuals to visualize the experience and feel more connected to the environment around them.
  3. Sound Effects and Ambient Sounds: Pay attention to the use of sound effects and ambient sounds to create a realistic atmosphere. Include sounds such as the turn signal, windshield wipers, or other driving-related noises to enhance the immersive experience. Use spatial audio techniques to replicate the directionality of these sounds, further engaging the listener.
  4. Inclusive Conversations: Incorporate inclusive conversations into your first-person car ride ASMR videos. Engage in friendly and relatable dialogues that make listeners feel like they are part of the experience. This helps foster a sense of connection and inclusivity for all viewers, regardless of their preferences.
  5. Consider Accessibility Features: Implement accessibility features such as closed captions, audio transcriptions, or audio descriptions to make your first-person car ride ASMR videos more accessible. These features provide additional support for viewers with hearing impairments or visual limitations, allowing them to fully enjoy and understand the content.

Remember, while you may have your preferred style and preferences, it’s important to consider the diverse preferences of your audience. By incorporating engaging narration, vibrant audio descriptions, realistic sound effects, inclusive conversations, and accessibility features, you can create first-person car ride ASMR videos that are enjoyable and accessible to a wider range of individuals.


Interacting With Me: Insights into My Perspective

For a comprehensive understanding of how to interact with blind individuals in various social contexts, such as car rides, please read the following:

This guide encompasses valuable insights that will facilitate respectful and inclusive interactions with blind individuals, ultimately fortifying our connection.


Conclusion: My Personal Challenge for You

As I bring this long and captivating article to an end, I extend to you a transformative personal challenge. Let’s conclude with an ordered list of actionable steps, culminating in an empowering invitation—reach out to someone who cannot drive due to a disability and offer them a car ride. By doing so, you have the opportunity to bring joy and liberation to someone who has been confined to their house for a prolonged period. Additionally, consider offering them transportation to and from the same event or location to save them money on ride-sharing services like Uber or Lyft. Together, let’s make a difference:

  1. Cultivate empathy and awareness: Start by immersing yourself in the experiences of individuals with disabilities who are unable to drive. Deepen your appreciation for the challenges they face, their yearning for independence, and the financial impact of relying on transportation services.
  2. Identify someone in need: Look within your social circle or larger community for individuals who have expressed a desire to venture out but have been limited by their disability. Reach out to them, expressing your genuine intention to provide transportation and decrease their reliance on expensive ride-sharing services.
  3. Extend a heartfelt offer: Approach the conversation with sincerity and empathy. Let them know that you are there for them and ready to give them a lift whenever they need it. Reassure them that this offer is not just about saving money but also about fostering connections and enhancing their quality of life.
  4. Plan for a stress-free outing: Prioritize the comfort and accessibility of the car ride. Discuss their exact needs and accommodate them accordingly. If you both are attending the same event, propose picking them up and offering a ride back home, highlighting the cost-saving benefits and the added convenience of a familiar and friendly face.
  5. Make it memorable and enjoyable: Collaborate with the individual to plan an outing that aligns with their interests and preferences. Whether it’s attending a social gathering, a cultural event, or a recreational activity, ensure that the experience is both enjoyable and inclusive.
  6. Foster a warm and supportive atmosphere: During the car ride, create an atmosphere of camaraderie, conversation, and laughter. Show genuine interest in their thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Provide them a sense of belonging and make them feel valued throughout the journey.
  7. Inspire others to join the cause: Share your experience and the positive impact it has had on both you and the person you have supported. Encourage others in your community to take up this challenge and extend their hand in offering car rides. This is where you can share this article with them, so they can be educated as well! Share the link to this page via email, text message, via social media, or just show this article to someone from your phone or other device that you are reading this article on! Together, we can create a compassionate and inclusive network of support.

Remember, by accepting this challenge, you have the power to make a significant difference in someone’s life. Offering a car ride not only provides practical transportation but also symbolizes the care, understanding, and bond that can be forged between individuals. Let us break down barriers and empower one another to thrive. Take the wheel of compassion and embark on this remarkable journey of connection and kindness.

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